Staying Grounded

Do you ever feel not in the mood to work on or broaden your skills?
If it happens ask yourself:
Can my time be better spent?
If your still feeling out of it or your mind draws you away, ask yourself: Do I value my own time? If the answer is ‘not really’ then you should want to change some things around. If you find your inner self is saying ‘yea but I still don’t feel like it’, ask yourself: Do you not have any goals set? Do you not see an evolved you in the future? How can you see this if you don’t see that the future is only determined by what you do rite now!
I mentioned earlier that a person should want to change some things around. ‘I once wanted to achieve more, I wanted to be successful. A clear answer “no” came before me, “no I don’t value my time.” My actions did not reflect someone who wanted to be successful or achieve great things(there’s a difference between the two, i’m not being redundant=)). How was I to get in the habit of being proactive? I moved some things around, I found a piano and started to play. I saw this time as work because one of the many things I wanted to be was a music producer; this activity would give me an advantage. I began to set aside time each day to work on this skill. Time dedicated for other skill advancements followed.

What kinds of things have you moved around that have made you more productive?

What is Your Inspiration?

What is Your Inspiration?

Where is your inspiration? Is it in physical form; can you touch it?
Where does your inspiration root from? Is it in an experience? Have you yet to be inspired?

What is Your Inspiration..

Is it your grandmother, in her good company and resourceful mind..

Is it your Auntie in her reputation and successful endeavors..

Is it your father who hits it hard everyday because work is the way of life..

Is it your cousin, his zest for life, and his quality to live in the now..

Is it your beautiful sister, who you could never stop loving and have a weird connection with..

Is it your memories, which are priceless to you and can bring the excitement of life to your darkest hour..

Is it your brother, the personality of the year and a man you look up to..

Is it your mentors, who would give up their time, freedom, and resources to see you succeed

Is it your mother, who spent eighteen years receiving the blows from life, in being a single mother

What is Your Inspiration?

Slow your roll

How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie
Section 2 principle 1: Become genuinely interested in other people

Can you think of a couple times where you were on the receiving end of another person’s babble?
Were they talking about themselves?
Did they seem more interested in what they were saying than you were?
Did they need an audience…

Do you enjoy seeing people happy?
Ask someone about their interests, their day, how they like their phone.
Look at their wide-eyed expression as they answer with a confidence.
Hear the tone/expression of their voice.
What happens to their posture?

What happens when we become genuinely interested in the other person?
People will want to be around you
They will enjoy your company
You will acquire many true and sincere friends
You’ll be welcomed anywhere

This isn’t flattery, you can see the difference in a person’s reaction.

Carnegie shares a quote: “we are interested in others when they are interested in us”
He writes, “if we merely try to impress people and get people interested in us, we will never have many true, sincere friends”

Let’s be more mindful, conscious, and genuine and get the most out of our conversations

Principle 2

How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie
Give honest and sincere appreciation

Do you crave to be important in someone’s life? Crave to be appreciated?

What are some sacrifices you have made in your life? What would you sacrifice?

This chapter gives us insight on a person’s desire to be important( I think of my grandfather, as he distributes money and boasts of his doings.)

On a person’s desire to be appreciated(I think of anyone I’ve ever met)

What are some things you do for people(maybe the people closest to you) that give them a sense of appreciation?
What are some things you can do to become more important in someone’s life?

Flattery…
Carnegie shares the definition: “Flattery is telling the other person precisely what he thinks about himself”(one of the weaker quotes in the book)
He shares another quote:” don’t be afraid of enemies who attack you. Be afraid of friends who flatter you”

He shares a quote: “every man I meet is my superior in some way. In that, I learn of him.”
If we were to think in this way, how advantageous would it be?
Would we ask questions? Be able to make better, more conscious decisions? Make new ideas? Bring old ideas to a whole new light?

Let’s give honest and sincere appreciation

Principle 1

How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie

Principle 1: Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain

When was the last time you criticized someone?Was it a family member?

When was the last time you complained to someone about their faults or habits?

I sit & think when was the last time complaining worked in my favor? I don’t recall, but instead, what I can do is think of times in witch complaining has worked against me.

Does complaining just put the other person on the side defensive?

Lets criticize less, complain less, inspire others to feed their creative endeavors…